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Today’s is my Mom’s birthday, and I’m so glad she’s celebrating it the same week she retires!  Her birthday is one of her favorite things, and I’m sure this entire week will be a memorable one for her.  We got her tickets to see Dolly Parton and a massage.  I can’t wait to spend an upcoming evening with her singing our hearts out to “Why’d You Come in Here Lookin’ Like That”!  Dolly’s the best and so is my Mom.

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100 Things No One Should Care About

An old photo of my dresser in my first apartment. My perfume collection.
An old photo of my dresser in my first apartment. My perfume collection.
  1. Who is your hero?   Dawn Weiner from Welcome to the Dollhouse 
  2. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?  If money wasn’t a factor, I would love to live near the Atlantic.  It’s my favorite body of water, and I’m a beach baby.  Otherwise, I’d love to live in Oxford, Mississippi.  It gets a lot of bad publicity in the media, but unfortunately, racism exists everywhere.  There is more to Oxford than racists.  There is a wonderful community of intellectual book nerds. I adore visiting, and I would love to live there.  
  3. What is your biggest fear?  I have a driving phobia, and I’m terrified of bears.  I know I shouldn’t wish extinction on a creature, but I come pretty close to loathing bears that much.  
  4. What is your favorite family vacation?  Any of the many summers spent with my family in New Smyrna Beach, Florida.  
  5. What would you change about yourself if you could?  I wish I didn’t have anxiety, and I wish I wasn’t so hot tempered.  
  6. What really makes you angry?  Someone messing with my husband or my mother. People who say, “They’re comin’ for our guns (regarding Obama, Democrats, Hillary, etc.).  People that are late (it’s a complete lack of respect).  
  7. What motivates you to work hard?  The fact that I have to pay bills.  
  8. What is your favorite thing about your career?  I enjoy working with students, and I’ve got great colleagues.  
  9. What is your biggest complaint about your job?  It can be boring.    
  10. What is your proudest accomplishment?  I don’t know…maybe getting one of my piece’s published in the Dear Sister book.  
  11. What is your child’s proudest accomplishment?  Why does everything in life assume people have kids?  Don’t have them; don’t ever want them.  No, I will never regret it.  
  12. What is your favorite book to read?  I don’t know have just one.  I love anything by Colette.  A recent favorite is Faulkner’s Absalom, Absalom!  
  13. What makes you laugh the most?  My husband and my puppy, Mearl 
  14. What was the last movie you went to? What did you think?  I hate going to the theater.  I’d rather watch it at home.  I think it was a showing of Miracle on 34th Street in Little Rock near Christmas.  It’s one of my favorite Christmas movies so I enjoyed it.  The older I get, the less I can stand watching a movie, but I can binge watch a tv show all day??  
  15. What did you want to be when you were small?  A judge, a marine biologist, or a nun.  
  16. What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?  Mearl, my pug, would like to be an internet celebrity.  
  17. If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be?  Besides being with my husbands/cats/pug, it would be a beach day.  I am at my happiest and most relaxed at the beach.  
  18. What is your favorite game or sport to watch and play?  Rugby.  I don’t give a damn about any other sports.
  19. Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse, or drive a car?  I’d rather have someone drive me around.  I’ll ride a bike if that’s not an option.  
  20. What would you sing at Karaoke night?  I’m not a karaoke girl.  I’d be cheering someone else on while having a drink. 
  21. What two radio stations do you listen to in the car the most?  I don’t listen to radio.  I listen to NPR sometimes.  Kelly and I do lots of podcasts and audio books on trips.  I listen to my Spotify.  I’m never up on music now, just the stuff I already like.  
  22. Which would you rather do: wash dishes, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom, or vacuum the house?  None of the above.  I guess vacuum.  
  23. If you could hire someone to help you, would it be with cleaning, cooking, or yard work?  Cleaning  
  24. If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?  Tex-Mex (specifically, a number 11 from Ta Molly’s)
  25. Who is your favorite author?  I don’t have just one.  I’d say Colette is pretty near the top.  I’m a book fiend.  
  26. Have you ever had a nickname? What is it?  Yup, Cash Money or Cash is my nickname.  My maiden name is Cash.  
  27. Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?  I hate them…just a part of life with anxiety, I suppose. 
  28. In the evening, would you rather play a game, visit a relative, watch a movie, or read?  Visit a relative or read.  
  29. Would you rather vacation in Hawaii or Alaska, and why?  Hawaii.  I’m not going anywhere where bears are (see number 3)!  
  30. Would you rather win the lottery or work at the perfect job? And why?  Win the lottery so I wouldn’t have to work!  I could be a stay at home pug/cat mom.  I’d volunteer somewhere.  
  31. Who would you want to be stranded with on a deserted island?  My husband.
  32. If money was no object, what would you do all day?  Laze about the beach, having many cocktails with friends.  
  33. If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to?  Sometime in the 1950s.  
  34. How would your friends describe you?  Ask them.  Probably awkward, funny, tell it like it is, and a hermit.  
  35. What are your hobbies?  Internetting, collecting pets, fleamarketing, reading, writing, traveling.  
  36. What is the best gift you have been given?  My wedding ring or a trip to Europe 
  37. What is the worst gift you have received?  Eh, it was obviously forgettable.  
  38. Aside from necessities, what one thing could you not go a day without?  Wifi (kidding…sort of)?  
  39. List two pet peeves.  Militant breastfeeders and people who comment about me not driving.  It gets real ugly, real quick.  
  40. Where do you see yourself in five years?  I loathe that question.  I don’t know where I see myself tomorrow.  That’s a piss poor question.  I make it up as I go along. I figure it out as needed.  When people ask that in an interview, I want to stab myself and/or them.  
  41. How many pairs of shoes do you own?  Maybe three. Unlike many women, I find shoes to be completely utilitarian.  I will wear them until they fall apart and reek.  My favorite shoes are these busted out black ballet flats that I finally had to retire because they barely kept my feet in them, but they traveled all over the United States with me.  I respected those shoes even though they were disgusting. They’re still in my closet.  I can’t bring myself to throw them away ever.  
  42. If you were a super-hero, what powers would you have?  The power to repel children.  
  43. What would you do if you won the lottery?  Quit work.  
  44. What form of public transportation do you prefer? (air, boat, train, bus, car, etc.)  It depends on how far I’m going.  
  45. What’s your favorite zoo animal?  The hippo.  
  46. If you could go back in time to change one thing, what would it be?  I would’ve applied myself more in my early college career.  
  47. If you could share a meal with any 4 individuals, living or dead, who would they be?  Kelly, his Dad, Faulkner, and Salinger 
  48. How many pillows do you sleep with?  Two 
  49. What’s the longest you’ve gone without sleep (and why)?  Several days when I made poor choices in my early twenties 
  50. What’s the tallest building you’ve been to the top in?  I dunno, the Arch?
  51. Would you rather trade intelligence for looks or looks for intelligence?  Looks for intelligence.  Everyone ages so eventually we’ll all be old, wrinkled and unattractive.  
  52. How often do you buy clothes?  I used to buy them all the time, but lately, it’s been quite a while.  
  53. Have you ever had a secret admirer?  Don’t think so
  54. What’s your favorite holiday?  Christmas 
  55. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done?  Rode in a hot air balloon
  56. What was the last thing you recorded on TV?  Sister Wives 
  57. What was the last book you read?  House of Leaves 
  58. What’s your favorite type of foreign food?  That’s too tough.  I enjoy Japanese food quite a bit.  French desserts.  Nobody does dessert like the French.  
  59. Are you a clean or messy person?  It depends on if I’m depressed and in a hole or not.  
  60. Who would you want to play you in a movie of your life?  Janeane Garofalo 
  61. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? Depends on if I’m putting on makeup or not. I’d say 30 minutes to an hour.  
  62. What kitchen appliance do you use every day?  Coffeemaker 
  63. What’s your favorite fast food chain?  Taco Bell 
  64. What’s your favorite family recipe?  Do we have family recipes?  I like my Mom’s 1970s-esque casseroles.  I also like her appetizers she makes for Christmas Eve.  
  65. Do you love or hate rollercoasters?  I’m not a fan.  
  66. What’s your favorite family tradition?  Christmas morning gathering together.  
  67. What is your favorite childhood memory?  I don’t have one that stands out any more than another.   
  68. What’s your favorite movie?  La Strada or I Am Love 
  69. How old were you when you learned Santa wasn’t real? How did you find out?  I can’t remember how old I was, but some kid at school told me.  
  70. Is your glass half full or half empty?  Half empty 
  71. What’s the craziest thing you’ve done in the name of love?  I went ziplining with my husband and hiked through some area where bears potentially were.  
  72. What three items would you take with you on a deserted island?  This doesn’t include people, right?  An RV, air conditioning, and the Bible.  
  73. What was your favorite subject in school?  English
  74. What’s the most unusual thing you’ve ever eaten?  Sea urchin, a raw quail egg, a cow heart (which was amazing, by the way), a cricket?  I’ll try anything once, pretty much.  If you ever have to have someone eat weird stuff on a game show, I’m your girl.  
  75. Do you collect anything?  Books and art 
  76. Is there anything you wished would come back into fashion?  Going away to the sea when you’re mentally or physically exhausted for several months.  People were always going off somewhere to recoup.  
  77. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?  Introvert x’s 1,000
  78. Which of the five senses would you say is your strongest?  Maybe hearing?  I can’t stand to hear people eating, and I’m pretty sensitive and easily annoyed by certain sounds.  You’d never know it to look at me, but sometimes, I can be seething inside over some sound that rubs me the wrong way.  
  79. Have you ever had a surprise party? No, thank God.  I’m not a fan of surprise anything.  
  80. Are you related or distantly related to anyone famous?  Some Scottish king who murdered a bunch of people, President James Buchanan who was apparently horrible, and way, way, way down the line to Johnny Cash.  
  81. What do you do to keep fit?  I’m really out of shape right now, but it comes with the depression and anxiety territory sometimes.  I love walking when I’m not in the hole.  I’ve gained weight, but sometimes just continuing to exist is a victory, y’know?  I don’t beat myself about it anymore.  
  82. Does your family have a “motto” – spoken or unspoken?  All four of us together never works on vacation! Also, we’re a pretty say anything family which I’m sure is appalling to some.  I can tell my Mom anything I can tell my friends…anything.  We all cuss like sailors.  I’m sure some would find our family crude/rough around the edges, but I think we’re real.  
  83. If you were ruler of your own country what would be the first law you would introduce?  I’d shorten the work week big time!  Man, our forefathers messed that one up.  Two days off out of seven?!  Wth?  
  84. Who was your favorite teacher in school and why?  In high school, it was Mr. Crabbe.  He was open minded, funny, encouraged my writing, and appreciated my eccentricities.  The feeling was mutual.  
  85. What three things do you think of the most each day?  my husband, my pets, and coffee 
  86. If you had a warning label, what would yours say?  Don’t say anything about the fact that she doesn’t drive.  Just nod your head and mind your business and move on with  your life.  
  87. What song would you say best sums you up?  “Boys Wanna Be Her” by Peaches   Nah, I don’t know, but I don’t have a shortage of confidence or ego.  
  88. What celebrity would you like to meet at Starbucks for a cup of coffee?  Probably none of them.  I always think I’d like to meet them, but I’m sure in person I’d be really socially awkward and end up wanting out of the situation.  I’m pretty sure I’d turn as red as a tomato.  I think David Sedaris and I would have a lot to talk about, though.  
  89. Who was your first crush?  Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing 
  90. What’s the most interesting thing you can see out of your office or kitchen window?  I don’t have an office or a kitchen window.  
  91. On a scale of 1-10 how funny would you say you are?  It depends on the day.  Some days I’m really on, and other days, I can’t be bothered.  
  92. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?  Please refer to question 40.  
  93. What was your first job?  rubbing my Mom’s back 
  94. If you could join any past or current music group which would you want to join? I would never want to be in a music group.  I have no musical talent, and I don’t like all that attention focused on me.  
  95. How many languages do you speak?  One 
  96. What is your favorite family holiday tradition?  Doing Christmas morning together, and I really like Christmas Eve together, too.  It’s been our huge celebration since I was a kid.  We don’t do birthdays really, but we are big on Christmas.  
  97. Who is the most intelligent person you know?  I’m not sure.  I keep around a lot of people who are more intelligent than I am.  I like people I can learn from; I’m not sure who is the most intelligent, but I want to feel like you can teach me things if we’re friends.  
  98. If you had to describe yourself as an animal, which one would it be?  a cat 
  99. What is one thing you will never do again?  Zipline.  I did it once.  It wasn’t that bad, but I don’t ever feel the need to do it again, either.  
  100. Who knows you the best?  My husband, Kelly.

Graduate Oxford

Pride and joy. Mearl was featured on Instagram's Obsessed with Pugs site, and she's got over 3,000 views on her photo! I am the proudest.
Pride and joy. Mearl was featured on Instagram’s Obsessed with Pugs site, and she’s got over 3,000 views on her photo! I am the proudest.

It was another wonderful weekend with our sweet puppy Mearl.  We had the perfect day on Sunday with my mom-in-law, Auburn, and my sister-in-law, Ashley.  They were so sweet to bring many presents for both Mearl and the cats, and Mearl had an excellent day playing with them.  I’m so glad to have had them visit, first of all, to catch up, but also because I want to continue to socialize our little pup.  She loved her new toys that her Gigi brought her, and they seem to be her new favorites.  Aunt Ashley got her the most adorable dress ever.  It’s a teeny bit big, but if she keeps eating like she has been, she’ll be in it in no time!

I decided it was finally time to start my series of posts about our trip to Oxford, Mississippi.  These will be interspersed with my regular updates over here so it may take several weeks to get them all up here.  I’m also thinking of going back and adding posts and reviews from some of the things we did from our first trip to Oxford.  It’s one of my favorite places so there’s certainly always something else for me to go on and on about from that charming town.   Continue reading Graduate Oxford

Woman Crush Wednesday: Tilda Swinton

Tilda SwintonMy Woman Crush Wednesday for today is Tilda Swinton.  Swinton is one of my favorite actresses.  She has an incredible depth of talent, and I respect the choices she makes in films.  She is also a fashion icon of mine.  I searched for photos of her to share on this post, and I truly could’ve shared every single one.  I spared you, but I think everything about her–her hair, the androgyny, and her mind is captivating.  She takes incredible risks in fashion and in film, and I’ve never seen it not work for her.  I think it kinda seems like Tilda is an alien who arrived here on Earth, gracing us all with her presence.  Boy, does she have presence. Continue reading Woman Crush Wednesday: Tilda Swinton

Gold Lamé

Photo credit--from Vogue article, click link below.
Photo credit–from Vogue article, click link below.
  • The Unapologetic Introvert:  I Had to Leave the U.S. to Stop Pretending to Be an Extrovert–“The Swiss valued quiet—it was reflected in the country’s hiking obsession—over 60,000 kilometers of trails crisscrossed the tiny country and if you weren’t enjoying their solitude every Sunday, you were culturally amiss. Reserved and contemplative, the Swiss didn’t even smile at each other when passing by on the street—which, thanks to my initial fake extroversion, I had to learn the hard way. Loud enthusiasm had no place in Switzerland—unless you happened to be a church bell.”  I have experienced so much of what’s mentioned in this article in the workplace.  The ping pong playing had me chuckling and nodding my head emphatically.

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Monday, Monday

Trying to encourage a puppy to get a lot of R&R is harden that it appears.
Trying to encourage a puppy to get a lot of R&R is harder than it appears.

Sorry it’s been so quiet over here, friends.  Many of you know that our new puppy came down with Parvo, and I was busy trying to nurse her back to health.  She’s had a rough time, but she’s finally back to normal!  We are so thankful.  I have received so many messages over the last week filled with suggestions, support, love, and prayers for little Mearl.  Truly, I was overwhelmed by the kindness.  Thank you for taking the time.    I think dogs may bring every one together!  I’ll try to get back on schedule with regular posts here now that she’s finally doing so much better. Continue reading Monday, Monday

Thankful Thursday for June 9th

Forgive the crappy iPhone quality photo, but look at that little belly!!
Forgive the crappy iPhone quality photo, but look at that little belly!!

So I don’t even know where to start on this post because the best thing ever happened last night.  It would be number 1 on this list of good things, and that is that we got our pug puppy, Mearl-Purvis Ponder (Mearl for short)!  She is darling, and we are in love.  She slept through the night (that is after we gave in to her whining in her crate and put her in bed with us).  K. and I are both smitten.

If you’re local and wondering if Mearl Purvis sounds familiar, you’d be right.  She’s the anchorwoman out of Memphis.  We were flipping channels watching for snow day information one time, and we somehow ended up on Memphis.  I heard the name Mearl Purvis, and I said, “That’s an interesting name,” and Kelly took to calling me that as a pet name whenever I’d get sassy (e.g. all the time).  When he asked me what we would name our new puppy, of course I said, Mearl-Purvis Ponder!  We named our last cat after the Pope so there you go.  Speaking of the cats, they’re kind of still a little freaked out/curious, but it hasn’t been quite as bad as I thought it would be so I’m hopeful we’ll all get on the same page!  We are now those people that have four pets.  Feel free to judge us.

Dimitri (Tuxedo Cat) and Francis (Russian Blue) enjoying a last moment of peace before Mearl arrived.
Dimitri (Tuxedo Cat) and Francis (Russian Blue) enjoying a last moment of peace before Mearl arrived.

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Woman Crush Wednesday: Hillary Clinton

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Who else could be my Woman Crush Wednesday after such a historic day for all women except Hillary Clinton?  I have long been a fan and supporter of Hillary, and I voted for her in 2008 when she ran against President Obama in the primary.

People seem to love to hate Hillary, and the venom and vitriol that is lobbed her way makes me uncomfortable. It is a reflection of the misogyny that still exists in our country, and frankly, it scares me.  I admire her inner strength in handling such constant criticism with humor and grace.

I personally find Hillary to be the most experienced candidate, and while I agree with many of Bernie’s ideas, I don’t think it’s as easy as he believes to accomplish the level of change he has promised supporters.  As a child of someone who has worked in administration (at a university level), I have seen how much work goes into actually accomplishing change in a bureaucracy.  It takes a ton of work and pushing and pushing to gain a millimeter.  I’m a dreamer as much as the next liberal, but I think it’s important to be realistic when confronting the work involved.  I think she has a greater grasp on what can be done and how to get there.  Do I think it’s necessarily right that’s how it goes?  No, but I think it’s the reality of D.C. and the world we live in today.

Like all good Democrats, I put a Bill Clinton ornament at the top of my Christmas Tree every year in lieu of a star (I’m actually registered Independent, but I just can’t see myself ever voting Republican).  I can only hope someday soon, Bill will be moved down just a little to make way for an ornament with Hillary.  4198632644_c50a90c180_o

*Side note, if you’re looking for an argument on social media, you won’t get it from me so don’t waste your time posting.  We all have different opinions, and you rallying on here probably isn’t going to change mine just as I’m sure this post hasn’t changed your’s.

Cat Scratch Fever

Today is my last day off work, and I plan on doing one of my favorite things which is pajamas all day.  To do this, you stay in pajamas until early afternoon, and then, you shower.  Now, comes the best part that I always tell Kelly is one of my favorite things in life. It’s radical.  It’s revolutionary, and I highly recommend it.  You put on a NEW CLEAN PAIR OF PAJAMAS!  I can mostly only do this during Christmas break, and occasionally on a Sunday.  In honor of my last vacation day, you can bet it’s pajamas all day.  Side note, how do you say pajamas?  I’m from St. Louis originally so I can go a bit nasal and say pa-jam-uhs (jam, like you put on biscuits).  Kelly says it like some wealthy golfer, puh-jom-uhs (Jamaican accent on jom).  Clearly, I am right.

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Keep It 100

27167077930_837cba4e6e_o-2So I thought it was a good idea to kickstart my writing inspiration by posting old ramblings of mine here and just share, but you may have noticed, those have been deleted for several reasons.

First, I put two or three out here, but it just felt wrong.  It was strange to reread them because I’m not that person anymore.  If you think Timehop is bad for occasionally reminding you of who you used to be, you should try reading through old journals you scribbled in when you were young and often on drugs.

I used to be way more open on the internet (I know, some of you are thinking, “How is that even possible?”  But I was.).  It was from the safety of a Livejournal account that could be locked so only those people I wanted to read it had access to it, and I trusted them.  Now, this is out there for everyone, and sorry guys, but I don’t know or even trust all of you who read this.  I’ve been an open book my entire life.  That’s me, and I will never lie about who I was or pretend I didn’t make poor choices in life, but honestly, it also makes me uncomfortable to confront that person now.  Generally, I’m not a nostalgic person.  I prefer to leave the past firmly in the past.  I don’t have “good ol’ days.”  My life has only improved with age.

Second, many of the old entries involve old relationships, if you could call some of them that (*ahem*).  There aren’t any names mentioned, just vague references no one could probably figure out.  It feels weird, though.  While K. would never say anything to me, and he knows it’s all old shit/art, it feels disrespectful to him.  I wouldn’t want to read about my husband’s past dalliances, and I wouldn’t want the rest of the internet to have those out there for their perusal either.  I just always want to be sure to make a clear decision to put him first. I could write about him and go on and on, and I do in some form, but it’s not as intimate/it’s heavy on funny.  That’s because I respect him more than anyone.  While I am a cracked spine open book/ tell-all put it out there individual, I like to retain his privacy because that’s not necessarily who he is.

So I reflected, and I found it wasn’t right.  I enjoy writing, and I think I collected plenty of good stuff back then, but I just need to push myself more in the here and now.  I am happier than I have ever been…sometimes that happy doesn’t want to take the time to jot down every single fiber of how right life is; it just wants to live it, and that’s okay, too.  So there won’t be old stuff anymore, and we’ll see about the new stuff.  Writing has always been my medium of choice, and I’ll just have to figure out what role that plays here now.  You’ll definitely still see posts here with randomness, and I’ll try to sort out if I’m up to journaling new stuff here.